Most everyone has had a “good riddance to bad rubbish” moment when it came to ending a toxic relationship. The feeling of finally cutting ties with someone who has brought nothing but negativity and drama into your life can be incredibly liberating. But more often than not, the “dump-ee” has some final words to say on the matter.
It’s a common occurrence for an ex to lash out with hurtful and insulting remarks after being dumped. They may try to hurt you with words in an attempt to make themselves feel better about the situation. It’s important to remember that these words are not a reflection of your worth as a person and to not let them affect you.
Have any more “nasty” things that an ex has said to you after you had dumped them? Share your stories in the comments below. Let’s hear the worst of the worst and give each other some virtual support during this difficult time.
#1
One thing I don’t understand is, HE wanted out, HE was sleeping with my best friend (and got her pregnant while we were in marriage counseling) so when I said okay, lets end it, he was enraged. He told me the world would be a better place if my mother had scraped me out with a rusty coat hanger than if I had been born. He also said, “You’ll never find someone to treat you the way I did.” THAT’S THE WHOLE POINT.
Final score: 287points 
Kim Shannon 
April Dancer April Dancer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
You bruised his poor ego by finishing with him. Those are truly vile words. You’re well rid then, hon.
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In an interview with psychologist and family therapist Shannon Benson, We asked her to explain the role of gender roles and cultural backgrounds in how exes communicate after a breakup. “Gender roles can influence the way that men and women express their emotions and communicate with their exes,” said Benson.
“For example, traditional gender roles may suggest that men are supposed to be less expressive of their emotions and more likely to suppress them, while women are expected to be more open and expressive. This may result in men being less likely to initiate communication with their exes, or less likely to express vulnerability and sadness, while women may be more likely to reach out and express their feelings.”
#2
He asked everyone he knew to call me and say what a loser I am, etc., but I got no calls. Turns out they all sided with me and now a have another huge group of friends.
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Final score: 189points 
Abby da great 
Batgirl Kitty Batgirl Kitty Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Report
I’m glad it ended well for you!
41 41points reply #3
Not mine but was given permission to share it.
My sister dated this guy for like 2 years. Super manipulative and toxic a**hole. He flipped his lid when she finally had enough and broke it off.
Told her she was “f*cking worthless anyways” and “___ was a better f*ck anyhow” then he told her he had been planning to “drop [her] a** anyhow because [she was] starting to really pack on the pounds and it was getting gross.”
She had an eating disorder for years. And she was really only starting to get back to a healthy weight, so calling her fat was possibly the cruelest thing he could’ve done.
Luckily, shed been going to therapy by that point and was really happy with the added weight so the words didn’t do what he wanted.
Final score: 152points 
Hannah 
Huddo's sister Huddo's sister Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Those type of people really are so weak they feel they have to prey on other’s weaknesses and insecurities to make themselves feel better. She is well rid of them.
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Benson also highlighted that cultural backgrounds can play a role in how exes communicate after a breakup. “Different cultures may have different expectations or norms around communication, emotional expression, and relationships,” she noted.
“For example, some cultures may place more emphasis on preserving relationships and maintaining harmony, while others may be more individualistic and focus on personal growth and self-expression. This may result in exes from different cultural backgrounds communicating differently after a breakup. For example, in some cultures, direct confrontation might be seen as impolite and be avoided, while other cultures may view direct confrontation as an important aspect of communication.”
#4
My ex (mother to my son) said I’m a sad a loser and no one else would want me. She abused me for the two years we were together. I’ve been in a happy relationship for 7 years now and have the best relationship with my son from my ex. I also have a son with my current partner. 🙂
Final score: 151points 
Paul J 
Bubbles and sparks Bubbles and sparks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Happy to know you proved them wrong 😉
51 51points reply #5
“You’re nothing but a lazy user who nobody wants and nobody loves!!! I also reported your dog stolen and sent both your pictures to every vet in the state so you’ll be arrested when you bring him in for his shots!!!”
Not finished with all the legal nonsense, but a no-contact order works wonders.
Final score: 135points 
John Cobb 
Lena Z Lena Z Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
How can anyone stoop so low as to stop someone to take their pet to the vet??
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The family therapist also told us about the distinction between healthy and unhealthy communication from an ex post-breakup. “Healthy communication is characterized by mutual respect, kindness, and a willingness to listen and understand each other’s perspective,” shared Shannon. “It is focused on resolving conflicts and finding a way to move forward in a positive way. It is respectful and non-threatening. On the other hand, unhealthy communication can be disrespectful and often includes personal attacks, verbal abuse or manipulation, and attempts to control the other person. It can make it hard to find closure and move on, and can escalate conflicts.”
#6
When I realized he was a narcissist, I decided to end things. My son had passed away the year before from cardiac arrest brought on by energy drinks. When he started gaslighting me (again) and I said I was done, he got nasty and physical.
He told me that if I’d been a better mother, my son would still be alive. I lost it and tried to leave. He dove into the car as I was leaving, causing me to accidentally run over his leg. I called 911, then he pulled a gun on me while I was on the phone.
The dispatcher overheard the whole conversation and sent the police. He tried to say I mowed him down but he was partially in the passenger, hanging out the door so they didn’t believe him. They arrested him based on what the dispatcher had relayed. A week later he was arrested AGAIN for breaking his son’s jaw. No revenge needed.
Final score: 133points Elizabeth Basinger 
Olivia Lisbon Olivia Lisbon Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Report
He doesn’t sound like someone who should be commenting on others’ parenting skills.
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He put me in the hospital. Seriously beat me because I had no right, apparently, to make a decision about ‘his life’ without him. This was after a fight where he’d got angry about me using contraception because *he* wanted children.
(25 years ago. I don’t know if he’s even still alive and I’m ok with that.)
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Final score: 125points 
Helen Waight 
Hensch Hensch Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Disgusting
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Benson emphasized that “everyone heals differently and has different boundaries,” and it’s important to “listen to oneself and find what works best for you and your individual needs.” She also reminded that “no one should tolerate any form of verbal abuse or harassment,” and that it’s important to “take steps to protect oneself from unhealthy communication.”
#8
Coming out of a two year baby-trap relationship between her and my bank account where my son and I were just background characters. Two years of emotional abuse, controlling and coercive behaviour ruined relationships with friends and family, lost my job, and a *lot* of physical abuse – which was always backed up with “there’s nothing you can do to stop me, I can do whatever I want to you”. That was true, she was absolutely right. I’m fourteen inches taller than her and close to three times her bodyweight so no one would have ever taken me seriously if I’d spoken out, likely they’d think I was trying to cover my tracks or something (this is going back several decades). Thing is though, it doesn’t matter how big you are when someone takes a dinner plate and swings it full force like a hammer so the edge of it hits your top two front teeth – when you’re asleep. Or they stick a needle under your fingernail, clamp your toes in the £200 hair straightener you just bought them. Nor does it help when you’ve let your guard down – like when you’re being intimate, it’s going very well, then out of the blue with no warning the person on top of you starts using your jaw as a punchbag while laughing at you (you can’t see them because of my beard, but I’ve got little flower shaped scars along my jawline on both sides from where her rings cut in to my cheeks).
Anyhow, the thing that sticks most in my mind from that time is from when I just packed a big bag for my son (I don’t have even one single possession, item, no family photo’s, anything at all from my life before the age of 26, just my medals which happened to be at my Dad’s house) and walked out to save us both. Her parting shot was “Fine, take the little ba***rd, it’s a f****ing c**t anyway. I never wanted it, should have drowned it in the f’king bath cos it’s useless just like you. I’m gonna tell social services you beat me and did things to the kid so they’ll take him off you anyway, then when you’re in jail I’ll just leave the little c**t on a bus for someone to take”.
Now, I’m no angel, I’m not even a particularly good person. Especially when I was younger my go-to response for anything I felt slighted by was to express my displeasure by using my paws rather than my words (there’s reasons behind it but this post is far too long already) – but saying that, I have never *ever* put my hands on a woman in that way, and to the day I draw my last breath I never ever will. Through all the abuse, trauma, misery it never even once crossed my mind, but just in that one instant – let’s say it was a very, *very* close call. I’m not proud of that in any way shape or form, but right in that instant turning around and walking away, choosing to de-escalate rather than retaliate, “allowing” that person who’s just upset me to walk away without “punishing them” for it, that’s the single most self restraint I’ve had to show with anything ever.
Final score: 116points 
Geoffers Bubbles and sparks Bubbles and sparks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Dear lord…. You’ve been with a total psychopath and then some… And whatever you were once, you’re not that person anymore. You stood up for yourself, protected your child from an abusive future… Whatever you think you are now, you will always be his hero. I hope you still find the courage to go seek psychological help, even if it means you have to see a few before you find the right one for you… I wish you both all the best for your future…
95 95points reply View More Replies… #9
That without him I’m nothing.
It was just his toxic, narcissistic manipulation to belittle me, as he was doing similar things for 7 years (the time we were together). And this was hilarious, because I was taking care of everything about our relationship – it was me who found and furnished our apartment, I was cooking, cleaning, and paying for most of the stuff as I have a better paid job. I dumped him because he was a narcissist and cared only about himself.
Final score: 111points 
Katarzyna Drozd Bubbles and sparks Bubbles and sparks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) Report
Good for you that you dumped him, those people are such a waist of your time 😉
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He told me that he wasn’t looking for anything serious…we had been together for 8 years, lived together for 6 and I had raised his children like my own. He could just never stop cheating.
Final score: 111points 
GracefulKumiho 
Smiler Smiler Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
i’m rlly sorry, hope things are better now, u deserve the world <33
33 33points reply #11
That he’d slept with his ex the night before and it had shown him how much he “really cared” for me. You know, because there’s no better way to say “I love you” than forking someone else.
Final score: 110points Lyoness 
Laura Jackson Laura Jackson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Maybe they thought they were on a break? I know, I’ll show myself out…..
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It’s maybe not “nasty” but I still can’t wrap my head around it. He said, “It would work if you’d change your attitude”. Sure… I really just should be okay with being talked down to the whole time, with being ignored, with being gaslighted… sure thing.
Final score: 99points 
Nele H 
Lawrencium Lawrencium Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
I’m glad it didn’t work. You definitely shouldn’t change to accept c**p like that!
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My ex-fiancée, the week that my brother died, sent me an email about how we had to delete our wedding Facebook account and that I was a terrible person. I know that he knew about my brother dying, because we have mutual friends that would have told him. I’m glad that I ended things with someone who waited till it hurt the most to hurt me more.
This was one of the many terrible things he said, but it stands out the most.
Final score: 92points 
ReanJean Bubbles and sparks Bubbles and sparks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
What an a*shole, I’m sorry for your loss…
31 31points reply #14
My ex told me that I would never ever get someone of his caliber ever, and that I would wind up with some grease-monkey. Well I did marry a man who worked on cars for a living, and he made 3 times what my ex made, and now my college graduate ex is in his 60s and hasn’t worked in his field in decades and now works at a sporting goods store barely above minimum wage.
Final score: 87points 
Deb Johnston 
David H David H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Report
hey, many blue collar jobs earn well, and way too many college educated people look down on them, despite many earning better and without student debt
39 39points reply #15
My EX taunted me saying, “you have something like a p*nis… only smaller!” I said, “Oh, you look like my new girlfriend… only fatter and less flexible.” She didn’t take it all that well!
Final score: 83points 
Philly Bob Squires Bubbles and sparks Bubbles and sparks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Bam! Good comeback 😉
35 35points reply #16
“What kind of a mother would a girl like YOU be?”
I had become close friends with an Irish co-worker. He was a fairly naïve country boy who loved my tattoos and ever-changing hair color, and was always fascinated with my unusual upbringing and adventures. Until we drunkenly hooked up after our company’s Xmas party, and I became pregnant.
I was almost 30 and wanted to have it and remain friends. He threatened to go back to Ireland to avoid child support if I did not do what HE and his family back home wanted- which was to have the baby and give it up for adoption. At the same time, he wanted to name it after an ex-girlfriend of his. (WT actual F?) I’m on my own in every sense with no family or support system, and I didn’t want my child to grow up in the same miserable poverty that I did. So I had an abortion. As it turned out, I was never able to get pregnant again. So my “family” dies with me.
Final score: 82points 
Kathleen Suileabháin 
Joe D Joe D Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
wow. this one really got me (48M) in the feels. i hurt for you. hope you find that life has blessed you overall
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He took all of my biggest insecurities and made fun of them. He told me I should be insecure about them and listed out examples of how true they were.
Final score: 70points 
Brittany Bubbles and sparks Bubbles and sparks Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
I bet he missed all of his own flaws…. but the biggest one was quite obvious, his lack for brains and great taste…All those things he listed as your “insecurities” he once loved, so listing them to you now to put you down is all a lie… kick those insecurities out the door and love yourself just the way you are, because that’s the perfect you ;)Trust me, even the ones that we think are “perfect” will always find things they think less of.Hugs
20 20points reply #18
One cheated on me & told me I was an alcoholic (after he got a DUI). Another said that I was mentally ill because I was leaving him after he’d cheated on me (then he got into the boxes I’d packed & stole several of my things). Another told me that he hated that I’d cut my hair, that I should skip lunches (apparently I was getting too fat for him), and that it wasn’t hard work but simply dumb luck that I’d been able to land a great career (but he had no problem spending the money I made on old cars & other useless c**p, including using MY severance check to buy an old Ford pickup). When I told him I wanted a divorce, he was shocked. Really? He guilt-tripped me into leaving a couch that was purchased with MY bonus check & ended up giving it away after I left.
I have my grandmother’s luck when it comes to lousy men!
Final score: 70points 
Annie 
Pizzagirl 91 Pizzagirl 91 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Unfortunately, as I learned watching many of my and my sisters’ relationships, it’s usually not luck, but either a warped self-image or naivety when it comes to those runs of “bad luck” with men… If you learn to recognise your own worth, and that it doesn’t depend on other people, you’ll be in a position to not let abusive, controlling or otherwise “bad boys” into your life. When you’re still too naive to recognise early signs, that’s another story. But I’ve never seen someone who’s actually been “unlucky” with men, we all chose poorly. There’s a big difference, and it’s the fact that you can work on choosing better next time, it’s in your hands!
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I told my ex to choose between his addiction or the kids and myself. He said straight out said his addiction. Good riddance.
Final score: 67points Virginia Schwartz 
Alysha Pursley Alysha Pursley Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Report
Sorry, but as an addict myself, in recovery for almost 5 years now, who was the child of an addict, it’s not always a choice they make consciously. He could love you and your children more than anything in the world, but once you’re addicted to drugs, the things they do to a persons brain make it nearly impossible to think of or choose anything else. People who want to get off of drugs repeatedly try and fail because it really does change the chemistry of your brain. It’s something, as the sober child of an addict, that I never understood. I moved to Mississippi from Ohio after giving my mom a similar ultimatum and vowed as a teenager I would never touch a drug. My mom never stopped using, and I came home. I was 21, and had my tubes tied (given pain pills after), had reconstructive surgery on my face due to being bitten by a dog (and given pain pills after) and had my wisdom teeth cut out (given pain pills after), all within 6 months. The last time was when I got addicted.
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My ex-wife told me I’m a fraud, broke every picture of me in the house, and told me “F*** your music” (I have a side gig as a musician). She then spent six months begging me to come back, but when I finally told her I’m never coming back, she told people in texts that went to my ten-year-old kid’s iPad that I’m a “laughable parent” and that she is the victim of my abuse. It’s been a constant, complete lunacy ever since.
Final score: 63points 
Sherry Ofus Sherry Ofus (Submission author) Sherry Ofus Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Oh, and she also said, “You’ll hit rock bottom without me.” I haven’t, and it’s two years later.
37 37points reply View More Replies… #21
My husband told me he didn’t want to pay alimony because we don’t have kids. And therefore I was able to build my career within our marriage. Guess what: we had a son (stillborn) in 2019 AND an elaborate fertility program that led to a miscarriage after in 2021. So yeah, his comment really hurt me.
Final score: 61points 
Josephine 
Alma Muminovic Alma Muminovic Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Move on and get him out of your life, that’s the best way to heal. My ex owes me 4 grand but I know Ill never see it and it’s just the price I paid to not have him in my life anymore and it was worth it.
22 22points reply #22
She said, “I only slept with him (my best friend at that time) once!”
Final score: 61points Abhorsen 
DuchessDegu DuchessDegu Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 9 months ago Report
Hope OP got rid of both, they’re equally guilty!
23 23points reply #23
That I’m not good enough to be loved but my friend, whom you met through me is good enough. Happened 4 times in a row, by 4 different people that don’t know each other. It must be true.
Final score: 58points 
C Ronz 
Jill Bussey Jill Bussey Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
It’s not true. You just need to find your perfect person. Don’t settle for anything less.
37 37points reply View More Replies… #24
“You’re not pretty enough to dump someone like me. In fact, *I* say it’s over between us!”
Final score: 58points Linda’s friend Ginger 
Full Name Full Name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
What a d*ck
26 26points reply View More Replies… #25
He said he loved me after he slept with my sister and my best friend.
Final score: 57points Animal lover xoxo 
Roy Zobel Roy Zobel Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Report
The sister is quite a character, too.
35 35points reply View More Replies… #26
We weren’t exclusive or anything but had been close friends for years before we started hooking up. A few months after things fell apart we talked and he told me he had known for about a year that we shouldn’t be in touch.
So I asked him why he had spent time with me although him knowing better. The answer was that he had been single for eight years and therefore was desperate and that I had to understand.
Final score: 56points 
Sandera 
LJ Robinson LJ Robinson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Report
He knew it was wrong, he knew there would be fallout. He blew up your friendship over needing to get laid. Then told you you had to understand?? What a piece of sh*t.
19 19points reply View More Replies… #27
After I broke up with my ex (after a year of his condescending behavior and I finally had enough after he berated me for posing with an advertisement/billboard of one of my fav K-pop stars), he told me for my next relationship I get into, I would most likely be physically abused.
Final score: 55points 
Candy 
MimSorensson MimSorensson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago (edited) Report
I don’t even know what a K-pop star is, and I still say that’s none of his damned business! If you like whatever a K-pop star is (unless it’s illegal or harmful to others which I highly doubt), that’s awesome and not for anybody in the world to judge – nobody asked for HIS opinion about YOUR likes, what the hell? I sure hope he’d be fine with people pìssing all over what he enjoys in life, otherwise he’s both an αsshole AND a hypocrite.
17 17points reply View More Replies… #28
I don’t know if it counts, since I didn’t dump them. But the first girl I dated left me for the guy she was cheating on me with, and she told me explicitly. She also told me how much better he was than me.
The second girl I dated admitted to deliberately trying to push me into taking myself out.
Final score: 54points Doctor Strange Full Name Full Name Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Report
Oof, I hope you find someone better than those two (although I’m sure it’s not that hard lol)
27 27points reply View More Replies… #29
Dumped him because he could not stop cheating on me. Told him the day I broke up with him, I couldn’t believe I gave him my virginity and he had the gall to tell me he had been a virgin, too. Pure unadulterated a*****e!
Final score: 45points 
Mrs.King0315 
Lara Verne Lara Verne Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 9 months ago Report
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