Humans are complex creatures. Some are like an open book, but there are also those whose personalities you won’t crack for months, if not years.
When it comes to narrow-minded, rude, and selfish people, usually, it’s all pretty noticeable at first sight – however, circling back to the whole “hidden characteristics” malarkey, some do an outstanding job masking their jerky selves. So, wouldn’t it be great to know the subtle signs that can help you identify the type of people that shouldn’t be a part of your life?
#1
Halfway through the grocery store, in the middle of the rice aisle, or somewhere equally warm, they suddenly decide they don’t need the frozen / refrigerated item in their cart after all, and rather than returning it to where they found it, they instead choose to just leave it on the shelf. There is nothing preventing them from putting it back in the cooler / freezer, but they’re actively making the choice to allow fish, raw meat, milk / ice cream, or whatever else to sit in the open air, and spoil.
IdespiseGACHAgames , cottonbro studio Report
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Hill Branda Hill Branda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
That’s a sure sign of a thoughtless A-hole.
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The Waiter Test. The person who is nice to you but isn’t nice to the waiter isn’t nice person. This also applies to cashiers, counter help, hotel clerks, custodians, security guards and everyone else in similar positions.
HOWEVER, don’t apply the waiter test the first time you meet someone. Wait until they’ve been around you a few times and are comfortable in their skin around you. The first few times they are on their best behavior.
AnybodySeeMyKeys , Wavebreakmedia Report
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Craftsman 64 Craftsman 64 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
You can judge the character of a person by how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.I’ve never found this to fail.
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Every time you interact with them, you feel worse than before.
simtyhopcc , Pressmaster Report
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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism and_a_touch_of_the_’tism Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
I had a SUPER toxic “friend” in 6th grade. Classic queen bee, told dirty jokes, talked s**t to and about everyone, never supported anyone… and you loved her anyways at the time. I’m so glad she’s gone now.
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Never saying sorry. We are people. We make mistakes. And even if we didn’t mean to, our words and behavior can hurt other people’s feeling. Just say sorry and move on, it’s not a big deal. But if someone is refusing to do so, it is a red flag to me.
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ArodTheHorrible ArodTheHorrible Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
I’ve heard, “I don’t say I’m sorry unless I think I was wrong!” Not the best approach, there
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when they promote toxic positivity. like the people that go “what are you depressed for? you’re alive, you get to see the earth with your eyes.” when you actually need professional help. one of my exes used to be like this, he would dismiss me everytime i told him that i might need to visit a therapist. he would tell me how being born and getting to live is a reason enough to not be depressed. after our breakup, i heard he used to and still promotes that therapy is useless. f**k you, i’m way better now that i took my anti depressants
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V 2000 V 2000 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Depresed? do something you like squidward-…faa77f.gif 
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When they talk s**t behind everyone’s back but have what I like to call a sticky sweet personality to their face. I know some people like that
EchoSpecial87 , voronaman111 Report
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There was a girl like this in my high school, proclaimed her “Christian life”, but when one of our teachers reprimanded her (justifiably) she hissed, ” He’s only a sandy-haired j€w, you can’t believe them”. Geeze, Virginia, you’re no christian, talking like that. She always spoke in a sugary sweet little girl voice to anyone in authority. She didn’t fool us, horrid hypocrite that she was.
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When they regularly make negative comments and claim it’s just a joke or criticism. Usually about the way you dress, talk, etc.
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MrsFettesVette MrsFettesVette Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
“you’re too sensitive”
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Sitting in someone else’s seat before a flight hoping it’s empty and then trying to convince you switch seats with them. Lady I’m 6’5 and paid extra for this aisle seat I’m not sitting in the middle.
dynomite-cigar , balls340 Report
Final score: 109points Doctor Strange Doctor Strange Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
One advantage to being big and ugly, no one ever tries this with me. I usually don’t even have to say anything, just exist and people scramble to get out of my way.
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I’m a man but anyone who pressures you to take a condom off sucks. They don’t respect you and are light weight creepy. Keep that s**t wrapped up boys and girls don’t let anyone tell you what is and isn’t comfortable. Yes it is way worse with a condom on but if thems the rules that’s the rules.
raptor6722 , wayhomestudioo Report
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Way worse is a bit of a stretch. That’s like saying vanilla ice cream is way worse than chocolate. It may not be quite as good, but you’re still eating ice cream.
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When they make everything about them.
An ex best friend and I used to work together, and used to car pool. I got made redundant and was so upset. I rang her to tell her the news, looking for comfort, and she said: ‘How am I supposed to get into work now?’
Should have walked then…it would have saved a lot of stress.
Edit: Guys, she was not neurodivergent, just an a*****e. I am riddled head to toe with ADHD, so I understand that sometimes our brains react a little differently.
We were friends for 7 years and it took me a long time to realise that all she cared about was herself. She used to break into my phone and read my messages, she read my diary, she would ghost me for days but kick off when I wasn’t available to see her…she even slept with my ex bf. The saddest part is that the friendship only fell apart when I gained self-respect and set some boundaries. She was a narcissist.
I know you have great intentions, but stop adding imaginary context when I am telling you this person was an almighty a*****e.
Hot_potatoos , RossHelen Report
Final score: 104points ArodTheHorrible ArodTheHorrible Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
You go, OP… get rid of that kind of toxicity
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You feel the need to be careful with how and what you say to them because they’ll twist words to make you sound like the bad guy. Too many “misunderstandings” can make you extremely conscious of yourself and make you walk on eggshells
magicrowantree , LinkedIn Sales Navigator Report
Final score: 98points and_a_touch_of_the_’tism and_a_touch_of_the_’tism Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Gaslighting.
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When they’re always the victim in conflicts with friends, coworkers, etc.
MrsDarcy1983 , svitlanah Report
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They’re all conspiring to eat lunch while I’m on a phone call and can’t join them!
13 13points reply #13
They say you’re wrong for getting upset at their wrong behavior.
Practical_Internal86 , Andrew Neel Report
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Gaslighting, again.
42 42points reply #14
They are very concerned with making sure you know they’re a good person.
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Alexia Alexia Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Obsessively repeating that you are a good person doesn’t make you a good person.
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If they disrespect people’s boundaries, no matter how small or simple they are.
Dazzling_Run_5519 , Farknot Report
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Unless they’re a cat. Then you suck it up and let your master do as they please :3
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Only nice to hot women, not average or ugly ones
CapitalChemical1 , Pressmaster Report
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SkyBlueandBlack SkyBlueandBlack Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Classifying women as hot, average, or ugly.
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If they constantly use their trauma as an excuse for everything bad they’re doing. Also, using trauma for guilt triping when they want to get something.
Final score: 75points ArodTheHorrible ArodTheHorrible Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
There is a limited number of times or length of time in which you can play that card. At some point, you’ve got to accept it and stop making your life, and everyone else’s life, about your trauma.
33 33points reply View More Replies… #18
If someone makes fun of someone smiles or laughter. My mom used to tell me how werid my smile was and say it was annoying when I laughed it’s a s****y thing to do.
Edit: thanks everyone for the support and I’m sorry to hear some of your stories. I also want to mention that there’s a difference between disliking someone’s laughter and making fun of it, I’ve personally heard laughs that I’ve thought were a bit strange but that thought stays in my head were belongs were it can only effect me.
Final score: 69points MrsFettesVette MrsFettesVette Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
How horrible! Seeing someone smile or hearing someone laugh is the best thing, smiling makes people even more beautiful, and laughter usually gets me laughing, too.
39 39points reply View More Replies… #19
Anything you say to them can and will be used against you, but subtly.
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Lesley Yen Lesley Yen Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Sounds very much like a covert narcissist.
16 16points reply #20
They always expect something in return, no matter what.
Final score: 67points and_a_touch_of_the_’tism and_a_touch_of_the_’tism Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Insert “times I was nice to girls” meme
27 27points reply #21
Constant interruption of anything you say or do.
OrdinaryWheel , DC_Studio Report
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crowspectre (he/they) crowspectre (he/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
I just don’t understand how speech works and keep thinking that pauses in people’s talking means they’re done so I can respond. My entire family thinks I’m just rude but I genuinely have no idea how to communicate with people
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I live in Los Angeles so this happens a lot but basically whenever you talk to somebody, and it’s all about them all the time. You give your point of view or interject something about yourself and they immediately dismiss it and go back to them.
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️r@!n¥ d@¥$️ ️r@!n¥ d@¥$️ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago (edited) Report
My sibling is like this- if I feel sick she’s suddenly sick too. If I’m sad she suddenly is super upset and needs to vent. It rlly pisses me off
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Being constantly late for my activities but ready on time for theirs
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Ren Ren Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
This is fr my mom when i have somewhere to be. She doesnt care if im late but if its something for her she is ready immediately
6 6points reply #24
Commenting on someone’s eating habits or laughing even to yourself when someone says something serious
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Firstname Lastname Firstname Lastname Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
As a person with an eating disorder, I feel like I am hyper aware about commenting on what and how people eat. If I say anything, I usually preface that it’s a health concern, like warning my mate when he is eating too much of what I know will land him in the bathroom later.
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When they apologize during a conflict, they get angry if that doesn’t immediately end the conflict because they never truly felt sorry and their only goal was to escape repercussion. This will become evident when the behavior they had apologized for keeps happening and never improves.
signed, someone who has been on both sides of this equation
Final score: 51points crowspectre (he/they) crowspectre (he/they) Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
This is true, but often I’ll apologize in an argument because I just hate arguing and want to stop. It’s always super minor stuff and I’d never try to ignore a real problem, but arguing stresses me out
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They are dismissive of people who can do nothing for them
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Fester Sixonesixonethree Fester Sixonesixonethree Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
When I was getting my masters degree in composition, there was a soprano in my class who always side-eyed me and wouldn’t even speak to me… Until I wrote a series of songs for a baritone in our class. She turned honey sweet overnight, wheedling me to write for her. I just ignored her.
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My Ex slowly lost all of her friends over-time. She’d make new ones and then somehow burn those bridges too.
She also used to gossip and talk s**t about everyone she knew, including me. At least one friend who I never met thought I was scum because of what she said about me
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Final score: 47points ArodTheHorrible ArodTheHorrible Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
LOL… where did that pic come from?
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They don’t understand the importance of Parity in a relationship. You can’t always take and never give.
Final score: 46points ArodTheHorrible ArodTheHorrible Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
Well, you can if you’re a parasite. 0/10… would not recommend
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“I’m sorry you feel that way”
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Dan Holden Dan Holden Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
This means nothing without context. This could very well be an appropriate response in some situations.
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They put other people down as a ‘way to show their affection’. I loved a girl who did that, and she turned out to be a stone cold a*****e, and a narcissist
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Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 7 months ago Report
A little light jabbing is totally fine, but if they’re always doing that to someone, even after the person tells them to stop, it crosses the line to bullying.
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