There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
#1 Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
#2 Check Out This Horror Of A “Mother”
#3 It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone’s Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, We previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder ofBridesmaid for HireandThe Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice ofYou’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
#4 You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
#5 Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
#6 Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That’s because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn’t exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
#7 Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
#8 Poor Photographer.. That Said I’d Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
#9 Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
#10 I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
#11 Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
#12 With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of “Codependency for Dummies.” Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
#13 Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
#14 Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
#15 Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I’m Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
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#16 From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
#17 Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
#18 Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
#19 Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
#20 Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
#21 Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
#22 Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
#23 Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
#24 What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
#25 A “Friend” Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It’s Been 6 Months
#26 From A Wedding Group I’m In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum’s Choice Of Shoes
#27 Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
#28 A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It’s No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I’m Glad I Wasn’t Invited
#29 I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
#30 Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
#31 Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
#32 “Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
#33 Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
#34 This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
#35 Didn’t Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
#36 What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
#37 From An Fb Group I’m In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
#38 My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
#39 It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
#40 My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
#41 Bride Wants Bridal Party And Friends To Pay For Her Solo Spa Weekend Instead Of Having A Bachelorette Party
#42 God Forbid Her Sister Getting A Tattoo Before The Wedding!
#43 Nothing Says Love Better Than Dead Fish Instead Of Flowers
#44 Imagine Thinking That Your Color Scheme Is More Important Than Your “Closest” Friend
#45 Women Shares Petty Story Of Revenge At Wedding. I Understand How One May Wish To Do This, But Don’t
#46 Found In A Book Of Faces Group. Far Too Many Commenters Are Saying, Though Tacky, The Brother Isn’t Out Of Line
#47 She Looks Absolutely Beautiful. Too Bad – That’s My MIL At My Wedding 7 Years Ago
#48 Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It’s Okay
#49 Vape-Themed Wedding Shoot Turns Terrifying
#50 Oh God. Found On Fb. Even Matching Pearls!
#51 My Sister Got Married And Her MIL Decided To Get A Bigger Wedding Cake Than Our Mum’s Self-Made
#52 Bride Looking For Ways To Honor The Groom’s Native American Heritage
#53 Ewww, I Would Prefer Nothing Over A Mlm Gift
#54 Seen Posted On Facebook. Erm, What!
#55 Bride Wants A Bridal Shower But Wants The Guests To Pay For It
#56 Bridesmaid Dyes Hair Red After Bride Asks Her Not Too
#57 Leaving A Review After Showing Up Drunk At A Bridal Appointment With More Liquor
#58 “Parents Are Paying For Everything So They Should Do Everything For Me, But Also My Mil Is Helping Me Plan And I Hate It”
#59 My Sister Is Getting Married.. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought
#60 Bride Books Cabin For Her Ceremony Location Without Making Sure It Was Okay With The Renters To Do So
#61 Jealous Of Children…. New Low In The Wedding Group
#62 “Selfish” Bridesmaids Ruin Wedding By Saving Their Money During Record Inflation
#63 I Guess Enough Is Never Enough When It Comes To Gifts Or Cash Donations
#64 Found This Doozy In A Buy And Sell Group
#65 Girl, Just Don’t Have A Bridal Party
#66 When Wedding Planning Is The Only Thing On Your Mind
#67 Spotted On Fb. Casual Beach Wedding, So I Totally Thought This Woman Was The Bride At First
#68 Influencer At A Black Tie Wedding Reception. Gotta Get Content For The Gram Right
#69 Bride Refuses To Host Reception For 100-Person “Micro Wedding”
#70 Couple Posted A Tik Tok Of Unique Things They Did At Their Wedding, One Of Which Being Unity Milk!
#71 Found This Whilst Looking At A Hashtag For A Wedding Venue…. That Is Not The Bride
#72 Sounds Like He Dodged A Bullet
#73 She Posted In A Wedding Shaming Group For Opinions And Is Getting Completely Roasted
